Beliefs

Part 2: You Need a Compelling Vision

This week’s Tiny Talk is Part 2 of my series, Creating an Intentional 2022. 

Last week in Part 1, I talked about reconnection with your core values. If you haven’t listened to that one yet, I highly recommend doing so before listening to this one. The exercise I will share in this Tiny Talk is all about creating a compelling vision based on those values. 

If your vision is not based on your own values, what often ends up happening is you create from the energy of obligation, people-pleasing, or from a place that is out of alignment with your truth. 

That is not an inspiring vision for your life.

“A vision is not just a picture of what could be; it’s an appeal to our better selves, a call to become something more.”  – Rosabeth Kanter

I will share a few different methods you can use to create your vision for 2022 and beyond, but first, I’d like to offer the idea that a vision is never set in stone. It’s not a roadmap or a blueprint or a picture of what your life will look like. 

Your vision is your compass. Without this compass, your life is on autopilot. That’s great…if you want to make sure you brush your teeth or live your life just getting by.

Parts of your vision will be fluid, some of it might get stale in three to six months, other parts of it will grow stronger and more clear. It’s a work in progress.

Your vision should challenge you, comfort you, and have the ability to make a huge impact in your life and in the lives of others if you choose. This is why it’s wise to use your values to inspire your vision. 

I once heard someone describe their vision as scaffolding and they let the universe fill in all the holes. I love that image for a vision.  

A long-term vision keeps you motivated and provides you with direction. It’s the springboard from which you create your projects and goals. 

Above all, creating your vision is being intentional but not attached.

If you want to really get what I’m talking about here, I highly recommend watching the show or reading the book The Lost Kitchen by Erin French. The show is currently available on Discovery Plus. It’s about the owner of a renowned restaurant called The Lost Kitchen in the tiny town of Freedom, Maine. The only way to get a table in this restaurant is to send a postcard via mail and have it be chosen lottery-style by the owner and staff.   

Erin French embodies this whole idea of creating your life intentionally, having resilience and grit and the commitment to keep going, holding a vision and honoring her values no matter the cost. It’s a beautiful real-life story and an example of the essence of what I love to talk about here on my podcast.

I just ordered the book to read, so I think I’ll do a review when I’m done reading it. That would be fun! You can get a signed copy of the book directly from her website or find it on Amazon and Audible.

So, let’s talk about a few ways you can approach creating your vision. 

You can do this separately in compartments of your life or create an overall life vision. I like to focus first on my overall vision for my life. I start with a five-year long-term vision and then do one for three years and finally one year, but there are no actual rules. 

I suggest giving yourself at least an hour to work on this. Do it in a setting where you can relax and daydream. 

You can start this process with some powerful prompts and questions. Just start writing what comes to mind.  

Prompts to Find Your Vision

  • I love to do:
  • I love to be in these environments:
  • I love to be around people who:
  • I love to read:
  • Wouldn’t it be great if…?

Questions to Ask Yourself

  • What do you want to accomplish in 3, 5, 10, 20 years?
  • What’s important in your personal life?
  • What’s essential in your life?
  • What’s important in your career?
  • What problems do you want to solve?
  • What do you want to experience?
  • What do you want to create?
  • How will you spend the remainder of your time here on earth?
  • Are you currently doing things because you think they are expected of you?

Write Your Own Eulogy

To be honest, I’ve not tried this one yet because the thought of it gives me claustrophobia. But hey – it might be super motivating for you. My guess is that it will force you to dig deeper (no pun intended) and stay closer to your truth.

  1. Write the eulogy of the life you have already lived.
  2. Write the eulogy of the life you would have loved to live, the one that fulfills all your goals and dreams.
  3. Compare the two and write about which inspires you more and why.
  4. What insight does this exercise give you about the meaning you want out of your life?

When I Am Old…

Imagine yourself as an old man or old woman sitting on your front porch looking back. How do you want to remember your days? What would put a smile on your face or cause you to raise your glass to the heavens and say, “Well done, well done!”?

Higher Power

If you’re a person of faith, ask your higher power for guidance and trust that you will receive it. You may have to look for signs to the right path.

Ideal Day

A more light-hearted option is to do the Ideal Day exercise. It’s just like it sounds. Write out what an ideal day in your life would look like – start from the moment you wake up to the moment you go to bed. 

Put aside the “how” and the inner critic and just have fun with it. It doesn’t matter how ridiculous or far-fetched it might sound. There will be gold between the lines. Consider:

  • What time do you wake up?
  • Who (if anyone) is beside you?
  • Where do you live?
  • What does your home look and feel like?
  • Do you have children?  
  • Who do you spend your time with?
  • What do you talk about?
  • What are you wearing?
  • What does your closet look like?
  • What is your dream wardrobe?
  • How many hours do you work each week?
  • What is your work?
  • What do you read?
  • How do you spend your family time?
  • What’s your relationship like with your partner?
  • What are your thoughts about your life?
  • How do you spend your evenings?
  • What kind of music do you listen to?
  • What do you watch on television?
  • How do you spend your leisure time?
  • What is your bedtime routine?
  • What are your last thoughts before you go to sleep?

Once completed, some might be tempted to cross-reference their vision with their current reality but that makes the whole exercise pointless. You want to cross-reference it with your core values to make sure your vision is in alignment with them.  

Most importantly, have fun with it!

Next week, will move on to Part 3 of Creating an Intentional 2022: How to choose your one Big Goal. This will be the first year that I actually give this idea of choosing just one big goal a whirl. So, I hope you join me next week to tackle that one!


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